On 2 June 2020 we stood together in unity and blacked out our social media with a movement that was, in my opinion, a well overdue deep-dive into issues that still plague our world. Being a white, priviledged mama raising white children in South Africa I have, especially in the past months, felt an incredible need to learn as much as possible, to enable me to share as much as possible so we are all empowered with knowledge and the know-how to DO better. That little black square that on the 2nd helped me feel like I was supporting, by the 3rd of June brought with it a deep guilt that I wasn’t doing enough. So on June 4th 2020, after wracking my brain on trying to figure out a way to be part of the change that we so need, I decided to ask for help. I reached out to a woman of colour who I highly respect and have grown to love; the gorgeous Leanne Dlamini. Leanne graciously accepted the challenge and I received her message to us white mamas in my inbox today. It really touched me, enlightened me, and given me some pointers to help me do right by my children – to open their eyes and hearts, in order to do right by ALL children, here and abroad.
Before we get to Leanne’s open letter to all white mamas, I want to share an experience I had with Jackson. You will see that Leanne roasts me in her piece 😉 the back-story to that is; Long-story short, month-end May, just ahead of 2 June black out, our business’ driver drove our Gogo (nanny) and domestic workers both home for the weekend. As they drove away Jackson turned to me and said something that stuck me and made me feel as though I had failed him. He said, “Mommy it is so strange to see three brown people in a car”. He adores his Gogo more than anything in the world – his second mother, and even though his comment was full of naive innocence, my heart literally ached as the words left his lips. He has friends of colour at school. His best friend is coloured. But it was clear to me that from his observation, through his eyes, he was not seeing enough diversity. I knew instantly that needed to change.
Celebrating the men of our homes is such an honour, and I thought what a better way than to celebrate them whilst also supporting small businesses who have survived lockdown by the skin of their figurative teeth 🙂 I hope you love the guide as much as I do and please do tag me in your purchases on Insta so I can reshare and know who you supported
Generosity; 1. the quality of being kind and generous.
We know well the meaning of generosity, but what does it mean to you? I believe that generosity is, at its core, an instinct to go above and beyond, in the selfless hope of genuinely improving another persons’s life. Cadbury Dairy Milk believes ‘There’s a glass & a half of generosity in everyone’. Now more than ever, there’s a real need for generosity and for us to give to our most vulnerable – our children. The reality is that despite what’s happening around us, now more than ever, our children deserve the precious gift of childhood. You might have seen the Cadbury Dairy Milk ‘The Little Generosity Shop’ and ‘GenerosiTrees’ activations that collected more than 100 000 pre-loved toys for orphaned and vulnerable children last year. Well, Cadbury Dairy Milk is once again calling on all South Africans to support orphaned and vulnerable children by facilitating their right to play. The wonderful news for us is that we can be a part of this – part of being generous – in one of the simplest ways imaginable!
If your household is anything like ours during the Lockdown then your TV is likely to be on a little more than “normal”. I hit a little wobble the other day when I walked into the lounge after being stuck in my office and Jordy had put the TV on by himself and was busy watching Goosebumps!!! Oh my gosh I was so upset with myself and the situation. Shortly thereafter, like a gift from above, I recieved this mail from the team at NETFLIX, and they shared a list of kid-friendly programs and movies, as well as safety features for us parents to ensure we know what they are consuming, even when we are frantically on deadline or trying to keep our businesses afloat, (in between trying to homeschool our kids!!).
I’ll keep adding helpful videos that I come across so you can download and share on Whatsapp with loved ones and hopefully people in our townships and communities to better educate and guide them to help get us through this 🙏🏼
The thought of enduring a country-wide lockdown for 21days (or more) naturally brings with it a large dose of anxiety. Some of us will be in lockdown with our families which is wonderful in many ways… but children who are home-bound for any period of time will become more irritable their siblings, frustrated with their surroundings and test us in many ways. Moms will have shorter fuses, naturally taking on the strain of what is happening in our nation, also feeling stifled by the lack of external input, as well as exhausted by having our kids on top of and around us allllllll day long. Not to mention the unusual dynamic of having Dad/hubby around 24/7! In most cases Dads are just not used to being home for this amount of time, and it’s not likely to be smooth sailing for the duration of this isolation period, for anyone. All round we are unified in facing something we’ve never faced before. Many of us are going to be heavily impacted financially by this lockdown, and that brings with it its own stress. Others of us are preparing to isolate alone, with no one to share this time with, and days will be very long. Each of us is going to cope with this in our own ways, and it’s really important that we do our very best to keep mentally strong & positive.
Laken Folster is a counselling psychologist who has very kindly shared some helpful advice on how to maintain a healthy mental state during this lockdown, how to cope and get through this with a positive mindset:
I am asked multiple times a day for resources like schedules, ideas and links by mummas like me who are (thankfully wise enough to be) staying home, practicing social distancing and self-isolation… and so to make things easier to share I have popped all the resources that have gathered and those that have been shared with me right here on my blog, which you can share and revisit when needed.
When I was first approached and asked if I wanted to be part of a community chosen to trial Bowel Balance and feedback on my experience my first instinct was to shy away from the opportunity. Speaking about toilet habits is something we just don’t do… not publicly anyway!
You won’t believe how many moms I have heard say they don’t want more than two kids because they “don’t want to drive a bus” and “7 seater cars are SO much more expensive“! Well, may I introduce you to the all new, Peugeot 5008 7 Seater SUV; a revolution for the mom-mobile market!
Our precious first-born son turned seven in September and what is a birthday without a party, right?? For nearly a year Jackson has had his heart set on having his party at this awesome spot, and so he was one very happy boy that it was finally happening.
Jackson’s party was essentially a “drop ‘n go” party, and because there were only a total of 9 kiddies (including Jackson, Jordy & Brooke), we collected the kids from school on Friday afternoon and drove them through to the venue. It was at this moment that I fekt incredibly grateful that my brother had offered to come along to help – I do not know how I would have herded 8 kiddies alone. Once the boys were all dressed & ready, Justin met us at school with Brooklyn and we made our way to Umhlanga. Okay I will quit with the suspense and tell you what the awesome party venue that hosted Jackson’s party was… you guys have been very patient 🙂