I wrote this for all the moms who have moments of feeling completely overwhelmed, under-qualified and downright fearful of this massive task of motherhood, because I am one of those moms too!

Here is the link of the article in The Ballito Magazine

There are days when I sit at the table on my deck (normally in an attempt to do some work, laptop in front of me, caffeine to the side), and space out a little as I watch my babies playing. In these moments my heart and soul are filled with so many emotions. Pride is an immense one. Pride for so many things; their little personalities, the loving way in which they engage with each other, and the care my boys have for their little sister: this is not something I have taught them, it is something they have within them and it makes my heart implode within its chest cavity. Another overwhelming and very real emotion though, is fear. A genuine and heavy fear comes over me as I realise the enormous responsibility we hold as parents, and I hold as a mother to three babes. The unspoken expectation to be a good and loving parent at all times.

The (mammoth) task of raising beautiful humans. It is not a small job, it’s frikkin huge. In this fear is where many parents, and moms especially, get stuck. I can understand why! The weight on our shoulders is bigger than any other challenge we will encounter in our lives here on earth. I believe that it is healthy to sense this fear to some degree. To feel it come over you in brief moments and as we feel our chests tighten it reminds us that what we are doing is big, is important, and is to be taken seriously. I also believe though, that once we catch our breath it is vital that we release that fear, and rest in the knowledge that these precious beings were entrusted to us for a reason and a purpose.

There is danger in not releasing this fear. By living in the fear we allow it the power to cripple our confidence and thus our abilities to perform at our optimum. These tiny humans are ours to nurture and to grow as best we can for as long as they are in our nests because they are part of us. The very fact that they are part of us and we are part of them means there is no one better to discover the gold within them, and to extract it. The gold mining process isn’t always easy, it takes strength, consistency and patience to work through the layers of rock surrounding that gold, and separating it from the mud and that’s parenthood! When you reach it, though, and you polish it out in our little people the hope is that they will shine in all the glory they are meant to, and in that hope is where we rest. We find peace and purpose in knowing that just by believing we are meant to be the parents of these precious little ones, that God crafted each little family Himself, and that belief will allow our best parent to emerge and to feel a sense of confidence in the knowledge that we can (think Thomas the Tank #IknowIcan).

When we have that confidence that we can we are released of the chains of fear and doubt and thus we are set free to release the gold in our babies through being the best version of ourselves. That is all we can hope for and dream of, and it is all because we are enough.

Dolphin Coast, South Africa

Author: Shan Fourie

Shan Fourie is a busy mom of three, based in Ballito, and is a full-time lifestyle blogger/Content Creator. With over 14 years of experience in marketing, Shan began blogging in 2018, and embarked into full-time content creation in 2021. Shan uses her platform to share brands, businesses as well as to raise awareness and funds for causes and initiatives close to her heart. Somewhat of an activist, Shan has helped bring people together for multiple causes, including A21 Walk for Freedom, multiple Bone Marrow & Blood drives, a peaceful protest to stop NetCare Alberlito from closing its paeds ward, as well as other movements she is passionate about. Her biggest focus this year is on raising funds, alongside The Rise Up Movement, for a GBV safe house in Kwadukuza, along with a lab for facilitating rape-kits on site, instead of having to send them to Pretoria. Shan is an official Ambassador for (a) The SA Bone Marrow Registry, (b) the Red Movement (a movement intent on eradicating period poverty), and (c) and a partner of the Rise Up Movement - an NPO that stands against GBV, Child abuse, and Human Trafficking. Shan was a Mrs South Africa 2022 finalist, 2023 CANSA ambassador for Mrs South Africa, and Discovery Bank was her gold sponsor. Shan is also the official Wellness influencer for Gateway Theatre of Shopping and The Pencil Club Umhlanga. Shan believes that wellness is all-encompassing - mental, physical and emotional. She believes it is important to keep your life clean of toxicity. Self-care is super important to her.


  1. So beautifully written my Shanny – and so proud of the mama bear that you are to your precious angels x

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