On 2 June 2020 we stood together in unity and blacked out our social media with a movement that was, in my opinion, a well overdue deep-dive into issues that still plague our world. Being a white, priviledged mama raising white children in South Africa I have, especially in the past months, felt an incredible need to learn as much as possible, to enable me to share as much as possible so we are all empowered with knowledge and the know-how to DO better. That little black square that on the 2nd helped me feel like I was supporting, by the 3rd of June brought with it a deep guilt that I wasn’t doing enough. So on June 4th 2020, after wracking my brain on trying to figure out a way to be part of the change that we so need, I decided to ask for help. I reached out to a woman of colour who I highly respect and have grown to love; the gorgeous Leanne Dlamini.
Leanne graciously accepted the challenge and I received her message to us white mamas in my inbox today. It really touched me, enlightened me, and given me some pointers to help me do right by my children – to open their eyes and hearts, in order to do right by ALL children, here and abroad.
Before we get to Leanne’s open letter to all white mamas, I want to share an experience I had with Jackson. You will see that Leanne roasts me in her piece 😉 the back-story to that is; Long-story short, month-end May, just ahead of 2 June black out, our business’ driver drove our Gogo (nanny) and domestic workers both home for the weekend. As they drove away Jackson turned to me and said something that stuck me and made me feel as though I had failed him. He said, “Mommy it is so strange to see three brown people in a car”. He adores his Gogo more than anything in the world – his second mother, and even though his comment was full of naive innocence, my heart literally ached as the words left his lips. He has friends of colour at school. His best friend is coloured. But it was clear to me that from his observation, through his eyes, he was not seeing enough diversity. I knew instantly that needed to change.
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If you are looking for furniture to hire for any party or event in Durban I can highly recommend the services of UNIK. They are a Durban-based furniture rental company, providing quality and service of modern furniture and accessories. Their ever-growing portfolio includes loungers, conferencing, cocktail, café, banqueting, office and accessory ranges. Some of their furniture for rental in their catalogue had me swooning! They have everything from picnic-shabby-chic, to red-carpet luxe!
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There is no better time to connect with loved ones than over a weekend away! Our lives have been so busy this year that we found ourselves really missing our friends the Rosie’s a lot, and agreed that a weekend away was well needed. Left in the more than capable hands of Caley, a quick two night escape was booked & planned in no time, and we had something to look forward to together.
Here are some pics of our special weekend:
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When I asked Jordy what theme he wanted for his birthday he responded – “I want what Jackson is having for his party”… He has serious heart eyes for his big brother, and wants everything he wants! But Jackson wanted a small Pirate Party with his besties, complete with a treasure hunt. Jordy though, as much as he idolises his big bro-bestie, is very different to him. Continue reading “Jordy’s LEGO Party”
Justin and I went on a date night last night for the first time in what felt like forever. Life has just been really busy and to be honest we have been really bad at putting aside time for each other. Having spent an evening together, sitting opposite one another in a romantically-lit setting, with someone waiting on us (rather than us waiting on 3 kids), and enjoying a delicious meal together was so great for us last night and just what we needed!
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Here is why I think making time for “Date Night” is so important:
Having kids is a challenge that no one can ever be fully prepared for. Having three kids, well, let’s just say it is “full-on”. Thankfully, though, along the way I have built a little bank of MOM HACKS that help me through most days, and I thought I would start with my number 1 Mom Hack: Wet wipes errrrrwhere! Continue reading “Mom Hack 101 | Johnsons Baby Wipes”
Taking a walk down memory lane always brings up all of the feels, doesn’t it? Sometimes those memories flood back in the most unlikely of places, triggered by something which could be completely insignificant to the person who passed by it before you, but to you it holds a bucket-full of memories…
Continue reading “My Childhood Memories |& WIN a trip to Zanzibar”
The Cavern Resort & Spa in the Drakensberg just gave us one of our best family holidays yet. It was a beautiful holiday for all five of us and here are 10 reasons why they get it all so right for both parents and kids:
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I cannot take any credit for this – all his daddy