On 2 June 2020 we stood together in unity and blacked out our social media with a movement that was, in my opinion, a well overdue deep-dive into issues that still plague our world. Being a white, priviledged mama raising white children in South Africa I have, especially in the past months, felt an incredible need to learn as much as possible, to enable me to share as much as possible so we are all empowered with knowledge and the know-how to DO better. That little black square that on the 2nd helped me feel like I was supporting, by the 3rd of June brought with it a deep guilt that I wasn’t doing enough. So on June 4th 2020, after wracking my brain on trying to figure out a way to be part of the change that we so need, I decided to ask for help. I reached out to a woman of colour who I highly respect and have grown to love; the gorgeous Leanne Dlamini. Leanne graciously accepted the challenge and I received her message to us white mamas in my inbox today. It really touched me, enlightened me, and given me some pointers to help me do right by my children – to open their eyes and hearts, in order to do right by ALL children, here and abroad.
Before we get to Leanne’s open letter to all white mamas, I want to share an experience I had with Jackson. You will see that Leanne roasts me in her piece 😉 the back-story to that is; Long-story short, month-end May, just ahead of 2 June black out, our business’ driver drove our Gogo (nanny) and domestic workers both home for the weekend. As they drove away Jackson turned to me and said something that stuck me and made me feel as though I had failed him. He said, “Mommy it is so strange to see three brown people in a car”. He adores his Gogo more than anything in the world – his second mother, and even though his comment was full of naive innocence, my heart literally ached as the words left his lips. He has friends of colour at school. His best friend is coloured. But it was clear to me that from his observation, through his eyes, he was not seeing enough diversity. I knew instantly that needed to change.
Celebrating the men of our homes is such an honour, and I thought what a better way than to celebrate them whilst also supporting small businesses who have survived lockdown by the skin of their figurative teeth 🙂 I hope you love the guide as much as I do and please do tag me in your purchases on Insta so I can reshare and know who you supported
Generosity; 1. the quality of being kind and generous.
We know well the meaning of generosity, but what does it mean to you? I believe that generosity is, at its core, an instinct to go above and beyond, in the selfless hope of genuinely improving another persons’s life. Cadbury Dairy Milk believes ‘There’s a glass & a half of generosity in everyone’. Now more than ever, there’s a real need for generosity and for us to give to our most vulnerable – our children. The reality is that despite what’s happening around us, now more than ever, our children deserve the precious gift of childhood. You might have seen the Cadbury Dairy Milk ‘The Little Generosity Shop’ and ‘GenerosiTrees’ activations that collected more than 100 000 pre-loved toys for orphaned and vulnerable children last year. Well, Cadbury Dairy Milk is once again calling on all South Africans to support orphaned and vulnerable children by facilitating their right to play. The wonderful news for us is that we can be a part of this – part of being generous – in one of the simplest ways imaginable!
I can still hardly believe it, but our baby girl turned THREE in February. We celebrated in style with a THREE-ESTA, and it was just the most wonderful party for our colourful little Sénorita. You can read a letter to my little 3 year old here.
We hosted the party in our home, which is one of my favourite things to do, however this was the first party in years that I didn’t have the services of my trusty party planner, as she had moved out of Ballito, and my goodness, party planning is a huge job! But thankfully one that I just adore. There were more than a few times that I felt overwhelmed and like I had bitten off way more than I could chew, but I had many fabulous brands on board for Brooke’s party and they truly came together to make the party a beautiful and incredibly joyful afternoon.
It was an absolute pleasure to work with Lyndi from The Party Box Co as she launched her sensational party stationary business. Lyndi was so great to work with and just like with Hired&Co, I sent Lyndi my mood board and she came back with some ideas of how stationary could compliment the theme. Lyndi complimented the elements so beautifully and brought in a feminine feeling through watercolour cactus, “3”s and little signs, bunting and many other elements to place around the party. Lyndi also printed stickers for water bottles and supplied them ready, as well as put little “B” stickers onto boxes that matched the theme for sweets & chips. And finally, the little tags for the party packs were just gorgeous, each with a threaded ribbon and hand-glued flower. Lyndi’s attention to detail is what makes her so good at this. I have no doubt she will soar!
All furniture and selected decor items were provided by Hired&Co. From start to finish Lisa was a pleasure to work with. I sent her my mood board for the party and she came back with a presentation of furniture she had in stock, and how she suggested we set it up. This was such a huge help to me because I felt a little overwhelmed with all the planning and one element stressing me the most was how the party should be laid out. I had a vague idea of what I wanted, and Lisa really helped to put that into motion. Her furniture was all delivered ahead of the party with enough time to set up, however we had some bad weather just before the party and so only had the day of the party to set up, thankfully there wasn’t all too much to do apart from moving things into place. I know that if I was hosting a big, important event or wedding I would choose Lisa in a heart-beat because she has such attention to detail and offers a brilliant service. If there were any hiccups along the way Lisa went above and beyond to rectify and she proved herself to be a huge asset to the Durban events industry.
It is hard to imagine that Brooklyn’s Fiesta would have been as feminine, vibrant and colourful without the work of heART by Carolyn from Adore Weddings & Events. The dancing flower pots that Cazzy put together were just too spectacular. Cazzy is the most wonderful flower fairy with an enormous heart for bringing love to those who need it through flowers. She brings such joy with not only her presence, but leaves it with you in the arrangments she puts together. She truly is a visionary.
My beautiful baby girl. You are three and whenever I allow my mind to truly sit on that fact for more than a few seconds, my heart starts to hurt a little. My baby girl is already three years old. My last born is no longer a baby, but a real-life little lady. And what a little lady you are, my girl. A little fairy to be more precise. A little fairy-angel-child who runs around on her tippy toes, bringing life and joy and peace with you wherever you wander, thanks to your little smile and that cheeky glint in your eye. You are as much a little lady as you are a little tom-boy. A true contradiction. As much as you adore wearing a tutu and prancing around the living room doing ‘ballet’, you also have just as much fun racing around on your scooter and running around the garden with your brothers.
As promised, here is the artichoke recipe I said I would share with you. | It was sent to me by a friend after I had it at her house, and it is literally the easiest, most delicious dip that is such a fabulous starter (especially for when we can have guests at our homes again one day 😉
After trying everything possible to get a LIVE call together with Laken Folster, Counselling Psychologist, we have admitted tech-defeat as it just seems her phone does not want her to go LIVE! Laken and I were able to have a ZOOM chat together whereby I could ask her the questions sent through by my IG followers, and she has kindly put everything together in writing for me to share with you all. In essence this post covers: Why the lockdown has us feeling anxious, unsettled and unstable & what we can do about it.
What happens to your body and brain when you are quarantined and how to cope: